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Category: Teens

All advice given regarding teens and young adults

  • School/Work Stress

    Dear Ask Lynn,
    I’m really struggling with keeping up with everything right now. Between school, homework, and a part-time job, I barely have time to sleep, let alone relax or hang out with friends. I’m trying so hard to do it all, but it’s starting to feel impossible. My grades are slipping, I’m always tired, and I’m feeling completely burnt out.

    I took the job to help pay for things and save for the future, so quitting doesn’t feel like an option. But I’m starting to wonder if the stress is worth it. I’ve tried making schedules and being more organized, but there just doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to fit everything in. I’m falling behind in school and losing my energy and motivation.

    How do I find a balance between responsibilities and my own well-being? I don’t want to let anyone down, but I also know I can’t keep living like this. I need some advice on how to manage my time and maybe find a healthier way to handle everything.
    – Overwhelmed Teen

    Dear Overwhelmed Teen,

    First, thank you for being so honest—what you’re feeling is completely valid. It sounds like you’re doing your best, and that matters more than you know.

    Trying to juggle school, a job, and life is a huge load, especially at your age. Burnout happens when you push yourself too hard for too long. It’s okay to admit that something has to give.

    Start by asking yourself what’s most important right now. Is there any way to reduce your work hours, even a little? Could you talk to your boss, a teacher, or a school counselor about how much you’re handling?

    You’re not failing—you’re human. You need rest to succeed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, set boundaries, and say no to extra things that aren’t essential.

    Remember, your well-being is a responsibility too. You deserve time to breathe, sleep, and smile.

    You’re not alone in this.

    – Ask Lynn

  • Worried Parent

    Dear Ask Lynn,

    I’m reaching out as a concerned parent. My child is being bullied at school, and it’s affecting their emotional well-being and confidence. They come home sad, withdrawn, and sometimes even afraid to go back.

    We’ve reported the bullying to the school multiple times, but their response has been slow and ineffective. It feels like they are brushing it off or waiting for it to resolve on its own. Meanwhile, my child continues to suffer.

    I want to support and protect my child, but I’m not sure what else to do when the school isn’t taking stronger action. Should I escalate the issue, and if so, how? What can I do at home to help my child feel safe and empowered?

    I would really appreciate your guidance.

    Sincerely,
    A Worried Parent

    Dear Worried Parent,

    First, I want to say how sorry I am that your child is going through this. No child should feel unsafe at school, and no parent should feel helpless when trying to protect them.

    You’ve already taken the important first step by reporting the bullying. Since the school hasn’t responded effectively, here’s what I suggest:

    1. Document Everything – Keep a record of all incidents: dates, what happened, who was involved, and how the school responded. This will help if you need to take the issue further.
    2. Follow Up in Writing – Send a formal letter or email to the school principal. Be clear, respectful, and firm. Ask what specific actions they plan to take and request a written response.
    3. Escalate if Needed – If the school continues to be unhelpful, contact the school district, school board, or even the state education department. Every child has the right to a safe learning environment.
    4. Support Your Child at Home – Let your child know you believe them and that none of this is their fault. Help them build confidence through positive activities and remind them they are not alone.
    5. Consider Counseling – A counselor or therapist can help your child process what they’re experiencing and give them tools to cope.

    Your advocacy is powerful. Don’t give up. You’re doing the right thing by standing up for your child—and that matters more than anything.

    With care,

    Ask Lynn

  • Frustrated Parent

    Frustrated Parent

    Dear Ask Lynn-

    I’m struggling with my teenage son, and I’m at a loss. He asks for my advice, but when I give it, he ignores it or does the opposite. He constantly pushes boundaries and acts like he’s already an adult who can do whatever he wants, whenever he wants—without any consequences.

    I try to talk to him calmly, but he either shuts down or argues. It feels like he just wants me to agree with him, not actually guide him. I want to keep our relationship strong, but I also need him to understand that actions have consequences and that I’m still his parent, not just a friend.

    How can I reach him without driving a bigger wedge between us? Is there a way to get through to a teen who thinks he already knows everything?

    Sincerely,

    Frustrated Parent

    Dear Frustrated Parent,

    First, you’re not alone. Many parents hit this wall during the teenage years. Teens are wired to push for independence—it’s part of becoming an adult. But it’s frustrating when they ask for advice only to ignore it.

    Here are a few things that might help:

    1. Shift from Lecturing to Listening: Instead of giving advice right away, ask him what he thinks first. Say something like, “What do you think you should do?” It builds trust and helps him learn decision-making.
    2. Pick Your Battles: If it’s not dangerous or harmful, let him make a few mistakes. Natural consequences are powerful teachers. It’s tough, but sometimes they learn more from failure than warnings.
    3. Set Boundaries, Not Control: Make sure the rules you set are clear, fair, and consistent. Teens still need limits—they just don’t want to feel controlled.
    4. Stay Calm: When he argues or shuts down, don’t match his energy. Stay calm. Let him know the door is always open to talk, even if he walks away now.
    5. Keep the Connection Strong: Find small, non-confrontational ways to connect—watch a show together, grab food, or talk about his interests. A strong relationship is the foundation for future influence.

    You’re doing more right than you think. Keep showing up with love and firmness. He may not say it now, but he hears you more than you realize.

    Warmly,

    Ask Lynn