Worried Parent

Dear Ask Lynn,

I’m reaching out as a concerned parent. My child is being bullied at school, and it’s affecting their emotional well-being and confidence. They come home sad, withdrawn, and sometimes even afraid to go back.

We’ve reported the bullying to the school multiple times, but their response has been slow and ineffective. It feels like they are brushing it off or waiting for it to resolve on its own. Meanwhile, my child continues to suffer.

I want to support and protect my child, but I’m not sure what else to do when the school isn’t taking stronger action. Should I escalate the issue, and if so, how? What can I do at home to help my child feel safe and empowered?

I would really appreciate your guidance.

Sincerely,
A Worried Parent

Dear Worried Parent,

First, I want to say how sorry I am that your child is going through this. No child should feel unsafe at school, and no parent should feel helpless when trying to protect them.

You’ve already taken the important first step by reporting the bullying. Since the school hasn’t responded effectively, here’s what I suggest:

1. Document Everything – Keep a record of all incidents: dates, what happened, who was involved, and how the school responded. This will help if you need to take the issue further.
2. Follow Up in Writing – Send a formal letter or email to the school principal. Be clear, respectful, and firm. Ask what specific actions they plan to take and request a written response.
3. Escalate if Needed – If the school continues to be unhelpful, contact the school district, school board, or even the state education department. Every child has the right to a safe learning environment.
4. Support Your Child at Home – Let your child know you believe them and that none of this is their fault. Help them build confidence through positive activities and remind them they are not alone.
5. Consider Counseling – A counselor or therapist can help your child process what they’re experiencing and give them tools to cope.

Your advocacy is powerful. Don’t give up. You’re doing the right thing by standing up for your child—and that matters more than anything.

With care,

Ask Lynn